You can focus on developing a deep relationship with your partner and get closer to prioritising the attributes that are most important to you by following Jillian Turecki’s suggestions.
Relationships require development and compromise since no one is flawless. Finding someone who possesses few certain traits, however, can create a solid basis for a happy, loving, and healthy relationship, according to relationship counsellor and author Jillian Turecki. And what characteristics should one be on the lookout for?
Reflect on your values and non-negotiables
Someone who is dedicated to creating a life together, sharing goals, and working as a team, prioritises emotional intelligence and connection, and takes responsibility for their own happiness, , according to Jillian.
Someone who supports open communication and active listening, is willing to provide their time, attention, and support without expecting anything in return, and treats you with kindness, compassion, and respect—even during difficult times or conflicts.
How to find your ideal partner
It’s crucial to take into account the traits that are most important to you when looking for a spouse. In her Instagram post, “find a partner,” Jillian listed the following essential qualities to search for:
⦿ Who is a giver? Not because they want something from you and not because they are insecure. But because they are a good, generous person, who values you. Be that partner, too.
⦿ Who wants to build with you? Who is committed, shares your vision of what a life well-lived is, and who wants to grow with you. Be that partner, too.
⦿ Who thinks you are too important to lose. Be that partner, too.
⦿ Who treats with respect during an argument. Remember, you are not trying to win an argument. You are trying to create a close relationship. Ego always gets in the way of emotional intimacy. Be that partner, too.
⦿ Who loves empathy, not ego. Be that partner, too.
⦿ Who does not expect you to make them happy. Who understands that you should be adding to each other’s happiness, but that fulfillment is an inside job. Be that partner, too.